2014 Morphs to 2015…Are we ready to morph with it?

HeaderbigWhile I am not a particularly religious individual, my spiritual side emerges at least once a year in the fall and sometimes at the end of December with Ryan Seacrest as well. This year not only was the transition into 5775 important, but 2014’s departure was also significant by offering me a second opportunity to evaluate a new year with new hope, opportunities, experiences, and goals.

I’ve lost people this year who will be missed, supported people who needed kindness, accepted comfort from unexpected sources, wished for resolution of some personal conflicts, and loosely quoting from a well know source, “strive to change what I can and accept what I cannot change”.

When reflecting on how to handle the next year’s rewards and challenges, I thought it best to tap the tried and true “sentiments” of some well know names. Their words and thoughts express it better than I, but the sentiment always rings true to me.


Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
― Albert Camus  


“Life is short, Break the Rules.
Forgive quickly, Kiss SLOWLY.
Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably
And never regret ANYTHING
That makes you smile.”
― Mark Twain


“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”
― Leonard Cohen


“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr., A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches


“It’s really a wonder that I haven’t dropped all my ideals, because they seem so absurd and impossible to carry out. Yet I keep them, because in spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.”
― Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl

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Triskaidekaphobia and Serenity

As  2013 grinds to a close, how many of us let our “Triskaidekaphobia (fear of the number 13 and avoidance to use it) rule our lives this year?  Ever the optimist, I kept hoping that it would not prevail.  As I read my 2012 entry, I realize that there were so many of my thoughts that I continue to feel and believe.  I did find peace in my “oneness” and from within during 2013, in spite of many challenges and did not rely on others for my serenity.

lotus flowerThe lotus flower has some beautiful symbolism associated with it:  The first and most literal meaning is from the lotus ability to rise and bloom above the muddy to achieve enlightenment.  Also, the lotus flower may represent rebirth…The rebirth can be a change of ideas, a renaissance of beliefs or the ability to see past wrongs.

2013 was a landmark year for me and with much meditation I was able to come through the “muddy times” and emerge stronger.   There were friends and family whose physical presence departed this year…They are forever in my heart and their laughter, hugs and spirit will be missed by many.

My raison d’être continues to be a healthy and creative mind, body and soul through daily meditations, productive tasks, and caring deeds.

He reflected deeply, until this feeling completely overwhelmed him and he reached a point where he recognized causes; for to recognize causes, it seemed to him, is to think, and through thought along feelings become knowledge and are not lost, but become real and being to mature. Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha (1951), Chapter: Awakening


Aspiring to Achieve the Greater Good…

Bird of Paradise

This year has not been a year of rainbows and lollipops….of people aspiring to achieve the greater good…of truly listening to others and hearing their pain, their joys and their aspirations.  This year demonstrated a lack of understanding and compassion, of forgiveness.

Personally, this has not been an easy year.  The challenges have been many and difficult.  Trying to find the raison d’être after and during each new obstacle has been grueling.  Always striving to be the optimist, setting new goals, keeping things fresh, and reinventing myself was tested because sometimes “stuff just happened” making the success of the usual techniques much slower and deliberate.  I was exhausted, but learned important lessons and eventually grew stronger.

Learning to find peace in my “oneness” and not relying on others for my serenity has always been my goal and my weakness.  Not making my emotional security conditional upon another’s actions and opinion towards and of me, things became easier.  That doesn’t imply that there is no need of others to bring joy in my life, rather that I learn to find joy in myself first.  I always have and always will be a people person.  I subscribe to the half full attitude with people in my life now and the new ones I meet.  It makes me richer.

And finally, this was the year I let go of my frustration and displeasure with those whose beliefs and behaviors I cannot control or change, but whom I still love and want in my life.  Just as I am sure that within my universe of people, there are behaviors and beliefs they would like to change in me, I embrace what is good and have faith and hope as 2012 winds down.

May 2013 allow you all to find serenity and peace.

My Thanksgiving Oscars and Emmys

It wasn’t a “leap year” with that one extra day, yet the year, 2009, has been long, both figuratively and emotionally and we have not yet reached December 31st.  With so many challenging events in my life, my family’s life and some of my friend’s lives, I could easily have felt sorry for myself and just curled up in a corner sucking my thumb (not really, I was never a thumb sucker, but definitely I could curl up with my teddy bear–now a pooch).  But with Thanksgiving approaching, I am in awe of all the things and people who continue to make my life so rich and fulfilling.  This is a little bit like accepting the Oscar and/or Emmy for best whatever, but it is really my Oscar for surviving 2009 and thanking the people who helped me along the way—and in some cases we helped each other survive.

These “thanks” are not in any particular order of importance or otherwise, just the way my mind rambled through the past 10 1/2 months!

Ann—many breakfasts and lunches offering each other emotional support during our lean laid off months.

Kathy B—the friend whose smile and thoughtfulness is consistent and one of a kind

Margaret–for your unwavering loyalty as a friend.

Donna—for putting your own life on hold to help me through some very trying days and who continues to be warm and caring and deserves my support through her tough times.

Susan—for her knowledge and eagerness to help me utilize so many employment resources and letting me support you through your hard times.

Marie—for keeping her word in a world where so few do and being the perfect mentor and friend.

John—for the most amazing type of friendship and network, where you always find a working spot for me, especially in lean times, that cannot ever be misconstrued for charity.

Jim B—for pointing many working opportunities my way and continuing to be a good friend.

Bobby—for supporting my children through their darkest and most challenging hours

Mom—for your unconditional support and love

Justin and Jenny—for putting family first

Meredith—for listening, even when you are having your own “issues”

Rocky and Bingo—for your four-legged, tail wagging unconditional love.  May Rocky R.I.P.

Louise B –for giving us Bingo and Jenny

Marti—for giving me opportunities and having faith and knowledge that I would not let you down

Joanne H—for some excellent HR advice!

It may seem corny, but before December 31st arrives, I want these people to know that I am Thankful they are in my life and I hope they are Thankful that I am in theirs.